Are you one of those people who can do just about anything? In other words, you have developed such a breadth of skills that you feel confident enough to do anything anyone asks you. Some might call you “well-rounded.”
If this is you, then you often find yourself overbooked and the person everyone asks to help them with _____ (fill in the blank). Some of you might take pride in the fact people want you to help them. Nothing wrong with that, as long as you don’t get overwhelmed and burnt out.
Other people with the “I can do everything” syndrome sometimes are focus challenged. They have their hands in so many different projects, they don’t see much success in any one project. This can be incredibly discouraging to the “goal-oriented, I can do everything” person.
I can relate to this syndrome because I have lived it most of my life
It’s been a blessing and a curse. A blessing because I have been able to help people. A curse because my inability to say “no” has left me over committed, burned out and frustrated.
After decades of dealing with this syndrome, I finally decided to take control of it.
1) Realize your self-esteem comes from the inside out, not outside in
We say “yes” because it makes us feel good when people think we have value. Plus, our innate desire to be liked drives us to people please instead of saying “no.” Know that you have value, no matter what. God created you for awesomeness. He has given you specific gifts to impact the world so save those gifts for the right time and place.
2) Take inventory
Look at what occupies your time and determine if it’s contributing to your overall passion, purpose and gifts. Some things are non-negotiable, but others with a little courage can be eliminated.
3) Maximize your gifts
Take time to think about the things you do well naturally. The things you are passionate about doing. The things that no one has to ask you to do, you just do them. These things are most likely your gifts. Then spend more time building those gifts and less time doing things that produce average results.
See recovering from the “I can do everything” syndrome, isn’t so bad. It just takes a little focus, prioritization and courage.
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