Have you ever wanted to be loved so bad it hurts? I mean physically hurts your body or emotionally hurts your heart. Some of you may answer “no” to this question, but I think you might re-consider your answer after you read this.
It’s amazing what we will do for love and acceptance. Ever hear about something crazy a person did and think “how in the world could someone ever do that”. However, we don’t know what that person has been through and how many times they have been hurt, broken, rejected or void of love.
I have come to realize that people will do just about anything for love. I am not just talking about self-destructive addictive behaviors. I am also referring to excessive behaviors like workaholics, over-achievers, head cases and hard chargers too. What do you think drives them? A deep need to be accepted and respected AKA loved.
There’s nothing wrong with wanting to be loved.
It’s how we are wired. If we didn’t want to be loved then we could all live by ourselves and keep to ourselves, but there’s an innate desire in us to be social and have relationships. So love is a good thing! However, like all good things, if it’s distorted or abused, it can be painful and hurtful.
As I was appreciating my amazing husband the other day, I was counting my blessings for experiencing such a deep and fulfilling human love. I thought to myself, everyone deserves to experience this incredible love I have been blessed with. And then I asked myself, why doesn’t everyone experience this sacred love? Because love has become a four-letter word that is easier to avoid than embrace. So I decided to write a series on experiencing true love in hopes that more people will be fulfilled with a love beyond their imagination.
We will start the series with defining “true love” so we know what we are after and then we will talk about how to obtain it.
I asked some of our You Can’t Failers what true love means and here is what they said:
- Trying not to change someone but loving them wholeheartedly for who they are
- Showing them respect even when you might disagree or have a different perspective or opinion
- Trusting someone even when you are scared to trust anyone
- Loving them even when life challenges come…in other words, don’t blame the other person for life challenges because we all make mistakes
- Not giving up on the person you love even when they have given up on themselves
- Knowing that you are loved…period. (not subjective or performance-based love)
Of course, there are many more ways to define true love and often true love is in the eye of the beholder. However, we wanted to plants seeds of positive, reaffirming love to help dispel the myths of shallow and stereotypical love so often portrayed in media.
We’re excited to have you on this love journey with us. Be sure to sign-up to receive our weekly emails so you don’t miss the next Experiencing True Love post.
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